As Christmas has been and gone, all the new year cheer has passed and the last of the excitement of parcels from the postman has been delivered. I have now turned my attention to decluttering our home, my wardrobe, my emotions and how we live our lives. I feel the need for a complete overhaul.
I have always dreamt of what my family and home would be like, and if I'm completely honest we aren't living it, and that is my fault. I dream of the perfect family, not the sickly sweet film family but the happy family, were we each love the other, and know that whatever we need physically, emotionally and spiritually can be found in our home. I want a safe place where we are all feel free to be ourselves with no pretence and no judgement. A place where there will always be wholesome food and wholesome hugs. I am going to make this happen this year, as it is down to me to achieve this with help from the hubby of course, but mainly me. I am the home-maker, that is the role I chose and the role I aspire to fill 100%.
I have taken a long hard look at our home and have decided that the best way to kick start this simpler, happier home for us, is by removing the physical excess and I don't mean our physical selves as we are all happy in our skin. The excess or clutter that is crammed into every nook and cranny.
I started by making the decision that if there was anything in my wardrobe that doesn't make me feel just like 'ME', fit me perfectly, or be matched with a cardigan & t-shirt/shirt then it's off it goes. I took a whopping 20 bags of re-sellable items to the charity shops and anything else went to one of those fabric recycling bins. I have now set myself the challenge of buying no more clothes for the next 3 months (setting my goals in small batches to start).
I have hung each of my dresses with their corresponding cardigan, so now when I open my wardrobe I simply choose which colour cardigan I want to wear and TA-DAH! my outfit for the day is decided and there is no fuss! Well that is the theory. (Linking up to Lakota and Ta-Dah Tuesday)
I am just deciding on what to do about the skirts that I have kept, as I prefer a dress to a skirt as you don't get the cut in half look, but that means spending money to replace the skirts. So I am thinking of selling the skirts on eBay and whatever their combined total is I will spend on replacing with dresses.
I do own 5 pairs of trousers/jeans but these are rarely worn and spending most of the time in the bottom of the wardrobe neglected, so they might end up for the charity shop too yet.
As I mentioned in last post that I had bought 3 items from Cath Kidston and this was for a similar reason. I want to simplify my life and take out the meaningless decision that causes me chaos and in-decision. So, I am selling all my other bags and purses (I have 3 purses WHY??) on eBay and have bought myself a matching everyday bag, a special occasion bag and a matching purse again to help streamline my days.
Amongst the madness of the physical de-clutter I discovered that I am creating little areas of our home that make me feel at ease and at peace, like things are starting to fall into place and this is one of them..
Nothing spectacular, just a cleared bookcase, with my lamp, a charity shopped plate, my beautiful carved sunflower girl (Willow Tree 'Sunshine') which my boys bought me for Christmas, and some simple golden carnations and red flower hips. Every time I look over at the tiny corner of the room it gives me hope. Hope that one day this year I will feel this way about our entire home.
Flowers always bring me the biggest cheer, they are my biggest weakness (I was woo'd by my dear hubby by a bunch of flowers every week while we were courting). There is nothing else like snipping and arranging a bunch of flowers to be displayed in your home. I love to play around with the textures but I am not one for big blousy blooms; I like simpler traditional flowers and if I am completely honest my favourite is the good old cheap carnation. I love the variety of colours and that they seem to last forever. They are stunning on their own but are best mixed with bits from the garden.
Awwww! Makes me wonder about my perfect date!! Fish & Chips out of the paper, Dr Pepper and a bunch of carnations xx
I am such a classy & expensive bird!!
While I did the food shopping on Friday I treated myself to £11 worth of flowers from Tesco (I am yet to try our local market for flowers) and out of the £11, I managed to put together 3 wonderful bunches. A large one for the side in the living room, a medium one for the dining room as seen above with my sunflower girl and this small mug & saucer arrangement. It is quite small but I think my favourite, as it happened by chance. I was about to throw out the white mug & Saucer (I was going decorate it as a Christmas pressie for my Mum, but she beat me to the mug & saucer buying) and I don't drink tea or coffee so it has been sat cluttering up the kitchen. Anyway, as I was doing the larger bunches I was left with the scrappy bits and just plonked them into the mug and instantly loved the miniature scene that was unfolding before my eyes, and it now sits proudly on my kitchen window ledge and it has given the 'about to be charity shopped' mug & saucer a purpose in life.
There are lots of different phases to our 2013 simple life overhaul, so it will be snippets of the madness as we travel along this road. Please don't get me wrong, I am trying to make our home and daily life simpler and easier but that doesn't mean a cut to complete frugality. We are EXTREMLY lucky that we can afford some of the niceties in this life and are not ashamed to indulge them. But where we can we will be making wiser choices and think about a way around something before we spend money on it to make sure we spend as little as needed. Mr. Crivens and I believe that cheapest isn't always best and that a bargain/offer is only that if it is something you actually need and use.
And just because it finally felt like WINTER this week, some pictures of our Garden in the snow!
For my Mum a picture of Arthur's first outing in Snow
There are a few other hope filling little spaces that are emerging but I don't feel that they are fully there yet and so aren't ready to share them, but I will I promise.
I want to end my ramblings by saying THANK YOU to all you wonderful readers who left me such inspiring and delightful comments on my last post. I was overwhelmed by how many other people find our life interesting and worth while reading about. I love you all and you are the reason I shall keep going and grow in strength & confidence to shine my light to the world.
Winter blessings to you all
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